But it raises many more questions. You know you have to do the responsible thing and call everyone you have recently slept with—except eight months ago you had the most epic breakup of your life. And what will their reaction be? People living with herpes could also seek support, date and love from someone in the same boat too. He’ll also need tested to know his status – that should be done regardless of the results of your lesion culture. The thing is that genital herpes can be very common and it cannot kill you. And, I’m telling you, the sooner you have the conversation, the sooner you can relax in knowing what you need to know in order to make a choice that best serves you and the person or people you are with.
Let’s say your new to polyamory, you’re on a couple of dating sites, and you’re actively meeting potential partners. We only kept in touch by phone over the winter. And then I noticed it stopped ringing, obviously, and went to voicemail. Costly? The Answer is absolutely YES, you must be completely honest about our health condition, that is important when we are in a relationship, lies always leads to quarrel or even fight, and telling truth will always do wonders, however, that does not mean you should tell others that you have herpes the very first talk, you don’t need to share that kind of information until you’re about to move the relationship forward. This is not common knowledge. Do you think that you can easily tell your partner that you do not want to do it because you are tired?
It does not. What this means is that there are a lot of people who think they are STI free, when they may actually have HSV2. I’m not sharing this to scare anyone. But in this case, my immediate thought was that I had it. Remain calm. Learn as much about herpes as possible, and you will never be panic when a problem occurs.Some dating tips are essential as well, you can be more confident and know how to deal with your partner when it come to an “emergency”.Your partner does not want to have sex should be understanding, you should never be angry at it.The most important, knowing that you can do it and you will do it!#4 What should I pay attention to when I am having a herpes dating? One of my favorites is: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/healthcom/everything-you-think-you_b_8578708.html.
You would need to really talk with your partner privately and seriously so that your partner will understand your plight and what you are going through. I highly encourage you read it, and please share it with your poly and non-poly friends, your polyamorous lovers, and potential open relationship and polyamorous dates and playmates. Let’s say you’re due for your full panel of STI tests, and this time you request a blood test for HSV2, just to cover all of your bases. All test results come back negative, except for HSV2, which is positive. That meant a lot to me, especially because I felt like I had… it was the ultimate losing the breakup, you know? Try as much as possible to be prepared for being told ‘thanks but no thanks’. You’ve just entered into the open relationship and polyamorous dating scene.
You’ve had a few hot moments, and you were safe every time, so were your poly playmates. You’re taken completely off guard with the news; you feel as if you have been branded as one of “those people”. You fear it is the end of the world, or at least the end of your sex life. You’re not sure what to do. You have a date later that day. Is it irony? There are programs all over the country where people come together to support each other and learn from each others’ experiences.
What’s a girl to do? Based on what you’ve read, you know that there are a lot of people who have herpes that don’t even know it. You understand as you are diving into the world of polyamory, and with the likelihood of having more sexual partners, you may be at risk for getting STIs. You also know that practicing safe sex can minimize the risk of transferring the STI’s, and that if you have HSV2 and take the recommended medication, the risk of transferring HSV2 is reduced even more. You have all of this information in your head, and yet you feel stuck, scared, uncertain as to what to do with it. If you tell him, you risk having an unpleasant night. It was always, “Can I have a bite of your sandwich?” “Yeah if you don’t mind herpes.” And then it became very real.
PEOPLE YOU WORK WITH The main thing to know about HIV and the workplace is that you’re entitled to protections under federal law. And… the date is approaching. You have to make a choice. Will you tell him or not? Yes, it may be uncomfortable, and it’s okay. It makes sense to feel the way you do. You just found out.
That pretty much sums it up. But you are going to have to deal with the fact that you’ve got a viral STD or HIV whenever you’re in a sexual situation. Breathe. It’s okay. It’s not the end of the world. There are plenty of people out there who have HSV2, and more still that are educated in knowing that those who carry HSV2 are probably safer in how they play with others (because they know the precautions to take), than those who have no clue if they have HSV2 or not. The best thing to do is to sit him down and share with him what you know.
It’s okay to get real. I remember the relief of getting the phone call and being told that I was, you know, clean. By all means, express your concerns and your desires. In the end, he will see you as an incredibly strong person, who is brave enough to stand up with integrity, and offer important information in order for him to choose what was best for him. When we offer information, we give others the opportunity to choose. When we withhold information, we limit other people’s ability to choose. So please, regardless of what kind of relationship you are in (open relationship, polyamorous relationship, poly dating, monogamy, etc), get tested, share your results, offer full disclosure, and request the same.